I found this article not too long ago and put it aside until I had a moment to properly rant about it.
Why Single Men Can’t Go To Bangkok by Chris Illuminati is one of the more appalling passages of utter tripe I’ve read recently. It’s garbage, rot, nonsense and sheer claptrap.
While claiming to pass itself off as dating and relationship advice for men, it’s exactly the sort of “help” that you as a self-respecting male don’t need.
Mr. (Ms?) Illuminati is clearly not on our team, thank-you. This spineless sniveling coward appears to have handed over his balls to the feminists a long time ago (assuming of course that he/she actually had any in the first place – my suspicion is that this author is actually a female masquerading as a helpful mentor, and doing about as helpful a job as a mountaineering instructor who’s terrified of heights).
Things start off well, though:
“You’re back from a dream vacation in Thailand. Refreshed, recharged and open to a whole new world of possibilities in life. You explored the lush jungles, swam in the crystal blue waters, discovered one of the world’s most varied and delectable cuisines — basically, enjoyed everything the wonderful country had to offer a single, young traveler.”
I’m in agreement, sure. Adventure is good!
But my mood changed dramatically after reading the next paragraph (and the rest of this man-hating, groveling “article”)…
“Unfortunately, despite your best intentions, your buddies are going to make certain assumptions about your trip. No matter how loudly you protest, they’ll assume you went and got your whistle wet by paying a different woman for sex every day of your trip. That the only lush jungles you conquered were hidden in the tight pants of a massage girl. They’ll make jokes at your expense, not to mention at the expense of the nation you just visited.”
My actual response is unprintable even in this blog, so I’m actually toning it down a bit when I say this:
If you’re a confident, assertive male who believes in himself, who [bleeping] cares what your ignorant [bleeping] buddies might think about what you might (or might not) have done while on vacation?
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It’s your trip, not theirs, and you’re entitled to spend it doing whatever you please!
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It’s your trip, not theirs, and you’re entitled to spend it doing whatever you please! If that involves having a great time amongst the bright lights and pretty girls of Thailand’s renowned night life, then that’s up to you.
Why should you be concerned about what your more cowardly “friends” might think? You’re a guy … you’re an adventurer … you’re a conqueror, dammit!
And if you really are that scared about what people might think, please turn in your testicles to the nearest chapter of the Andrea Dworkin Fan Club. You don’t need them anymore.
Seriously!
Show Some Pride As A Guy
Now, I’m not writing this as a wholesale endorsement to spend all your life chasing prostitutes in Thailand (although a no-strings-attached fling in a wilder part of the world can be a very interesting and educational cultural experience, if you’re so inclined).
The point I’m trying to get at is that You Don’t Have To Apologize For Being Male. Men do what men do, not what women want them to do. Good grief!
Women are typically the timid ones who fret endlessly about what someone “might” think about them and what they’ve done. Not men!
If you’ve read any of the articles on this site (or checked out the free Flirt Mastery ebook download we offer) you should already know that:
- Women like leaders.
- Women like confident men who aren’t afraid to stand up for themselves and say what they want.
- Women seek out independent guys who do interesting things and live to tell about it.
Women do not want wusses who slink around hoping that no one thinks anything “bad” about them.
So don’t be a wuss!
If someone does ask you what you did during your vacation to Thailand (or anywhere else, for that matter) with a smirk or underhanded comment that suggests you’re somehow some kind of loser for “maybe” dallying with the local girls …
Look them straight in the eye and ask them exactly what they mean. If they waffle, go after them and ask them to come right out and say it.
Let’s say they manage to stammer out an insinuation that you (gasp!) might have had sex with someone who isn’t [insert your own nationality here] and it might not have been in the most noble of circumstances (the horror!).
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if so, ask them why they might think that?
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If so, ask them why they might think that?
Also, be sure to ask them how would they know about such activities?
If you take the trouble to stand up for yourself (and if you’re not interested in doing that, please leave this website immediately and check out wusses-r-us.com) you’ll find that they’ll be the ones scrambling in embarrassment.
Which is, of course, exactly what they deserve for trying to drag you down to their level.
It’s your vacation and your adventure. No matter what country you visit, nor which activities you enjoy while there, don’t apologize for being a guy out having fun. If you’re not starting fights, stealing, or otherwise engaging in what’s commonly perceived as anti-social and harmful behavior, you have nothing to apologize for.
This goes for all things in life, incidentally!
Remember that most of the people making such comments and trying to drag you down are simply jealous. They’re most likely trapped in a smothering relationship or are simply too timid to go out and see the world.
When these types try to “embarrass” you into living the boring, suffocating type of life they live, take it as a compliment that you’re already enjoying a more exciting lifestyle than they ever will.
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take it as a compliment that you’re already enjoying a more exciting lifestyle than they ever will
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And if you’re not enjoying an exciting life, please start doing so right now. Even in today’s difficult economy, there are plenty of “budget” ways to set yourself apart from the crowd and have fun.
Life is an adventure (especially if you’re male), so start having one.
I don’t care if you go to Thailand or Tennessee or Tokepa, Kansas, don’t apologize for it and be proud of being a guy!
(/Rant mode off)
Until next time,
-Nick Thomas
